So normally, I don't bother complaining about music or other elements of popular culture. Partly because it does no good, but mostly because the general solution is simple, change the station. But There is a song out there that annoys me. Less because it is bad (though that is also true) but mostly for the message it passes along to young men. You are welcome to give it a listen here, though I don't recommend it save to satisfy curiosity, but I will include the relevant lyrics below.
"Saturday morning jumped out of bed and put on my best suit
Got in my car and raced like a jet, all the way to you
Knocked on your door with heart in my hand
To ask you a question
'Cause I know that you're an old fashioned man yeah yeah"
Well, we start off good. The young man is getting dressed in his finest in order to go ask the father for his daughter's hand "cause I know you're an old fashioned man".
"'Can I have your daughter for the rest of my life? Say yes, say yes
'Cause I need to know
You say I'll never get your blessing till the day I die
Tough luck my friend but the answer is no!"
Well, that ended poorly for the young man. Clearly one of two things is happening. Either the father doesn't care for you (and how you could have missed that is beyond me; I mean you've been dating his daughter long enough to want to marry her) or he's testing you. Well, let's see how that goes...
"Why you gotta be so rude?
Don't you know I'm human too
Why you gotta be so rude
I'm gonna marry her anyway
Marry that girl
Marry her anyway
Marry that girl
Yeah no matter what you say
Marry that girl
And we'll be a family"
Be so rude? Refusing his daughter's hand in marriage isn't rude. Cruel, perhaps, but not rude. He didn't insult you, he didn't laugh in your face, he just said no (and somewhat politely given how strenuous his refusal was, I suspect he has a pretty good reason). And I don't think your species is in doubt, I'm pretty sure he knows you're human... until two lines later when you demonstrate that perhaps you're some species or rat, weasel or other vermin.
For you see, if you ask a man for his daughter's hand, and then, upon hearing "no" resolve to not just ignore the refusal, but to defy him on it... you are dead wrong. Because now you've turned a nice gesture (the asking) into blatant disrespect. Boy, you'd have been better off not asking in the first place. But let's go back to my premise that one of two things is going on. If you asked and the father flatly refused you like that because he doesn't like you, then you're an idiot. You had to have seen that coming. Unless you're totally clueless and self absorbed (in which case, perhaps the father's judgment is dead on). In this case, you're not good enough for his daughter, and ignoring his refusal does nothing but prove her father right. And if he was testing you, then you just failed in the most spectacular manner ever. Mind you, I think a man who would play with the emotions of a potential son-in-law in this matter as a means of testing his worth is pretty crappy.
In either case, the correct response (assuming you ever want to be able to get along with this man, and avoid his eternal hatred) is to say, "Well, I'm sorry you feel that way, but I will continue to try and make myself worthy of her." This would demonstrate that you honor his position, and will not defy him. If this was a test, then this is your best hope of passing. If it's not, then you've taken the first step towards proving to this man that maybe he's wrong about you.
This song is basically is saying the father's refusal is "rude" and that open defiance is the best response. Neither is true. This pup is too wrapped up in how the refusal makes him feel, demonstrating his unworthiness more potently than anything the father could say. And again, in the likely case the father's refusal stems from that unworthiness, all the boy does is prove him right in that judgment. Terrible song, terrible lesson, and perhaps the worst thing is this is supposed to be somehow "romantic".