All of you know my opinion of psychology, and thus must be girding yourselves up for the mockery I am likely to bestow on
this article by Penelope Trunk on the subject of qualities to look for in a woman if you want to have children. (Via Instapundit: it's actually
the follow-up to an article she wrote for women seeking husbands for the same purpose.)
Indeed I might be so inclined, since she so readily divides up humanity into nifty categories and tells them -- based on the results of a pen-and-paper test you might take in a few minutes -- the possible ways in which they can structure their lives if they don't want divorce and failure. If psychology could really do this, they would deserve the massive consulting fees that they con out of corporations who want so much to believe they can do it.
(You can imagine how nice it would be for them if people were so easy to categorize. Think of how nice it would be never to hire someone who proved not to be right for the job! "Mr. Smith, it has come to my attention that you hired someone other than an ENTJ for an executive track position. I might have let it go if they were at least a close ESTJ, but this person is an 'I'! I'm afraid you'll have to clean out your desk -- and that's the last time I hire a 'perceiver' instead of a 'judger' for human resources.")
However, I'm going to go easy on her and discuss her opinion on the four types of wives to avoid.
Women who are most likely to be tortured that they are not climbing the ladder: ENFJ.
Women who are most likely to change their mind and not want to go back to work after the baby: ISFJ.
Women most likely to be disappointed that there is so little combined earning power in this arrangement: ESFP.
Women who are most likely to be dissatisfied in life no matter what choices they make: INFP.
Two things really strike me as interesting about this list. They are both people who, if you take the model seriously, are doomed by their biology.
The first is the ENFJ, the "women most likely to be tortured that they are not climbing the ladder." Yet we learn here and in the earlier article that this personality type is doomed not to be able to climb the ladder successfully. All the top executives are ENTJs, with a handful of ESTJs. "Sometimes an ENFJ slips in, but they are tortured and don’t last. The F kills them. They feel bad that they are not fulfilling their duty as parents. It’s not peer pressure, it’s internal pressure. It’s how an ENFJ is wired." This is described in terms of personality type, but it appears in both places targeted at women particularly. They will hate climbing the ladder because they aren't right for it, but they'll be tortured if they don't try.
Similarly, the INFP: "Women who are most likely to be dissatisfied in life no matter what choices they make." I assume these are the women who keep writing the
"Why can't women have it all?" articles.
Anyway, apparently these two types of women are screwed. No matter what they do, they're going to be miserable. Best to avoid them if you're wife-hunting!
(Fair play: I've been exposed to this test several times, and I come out at the very border of INTJ and INTP -- usually around a 1% preference on the P/J split. The only thing the article says about me is that, insofar as I can be a "J," I'm in the second-most-likely-to-be-a-high-earner category. I'd have thought other factors were more important, like intelligence or education, but apparently personality is what it all comes down to. INTPs don't get mentioned in either article.)