Closings

My oldest friend is at her mother's deathbed. A few days ago, when her mother was still fairly alert, my friend forgave her for any lingering resentments, and told her some of the ways she had been a good mother. The patient visibly relaxed and smiled. I had told my friend if she could do this, she would remember it the rest of her life. Illness and death are inescapable, but there are ways to minimize remorse, and this is one of the best. Also, once this is over, if my own experience with my father is any guide, she'll never again fear watching someone die.