Jesus, as you note, took the rougher part on himself, while giving grace to others. Again, it just seems curious that of all the very tough demands Jesus makes on us, some are seen as selective and some are seen as absolute, the selective ones seeming to be applied to that which we would rather not give up, and the absolute seeming to be applied to others who we would like to manage.Paddy O also offered the useful suggestion that D'Souza should follow the example of Henry VIII and start his own college.
Whether we look at the issue from the point of view of religious principles or just etiquette or mental health, I think it would take a strange view of marriage and commitment to get engaged before you finish divorcing. Isn't there some essential confusion here? I've never understand the point of marrying at all if one takes that vague a view of whether he's in a marriage or not.