Raising babies

Here's a theory that has a superficial appeal, especially to someone like myself with such ingrained anxiety about (and hostility to) dependence:
The National Institute of Child Health and Human Development has found:
Children in full-time day care were close to three times more likely to show behavior problems than those cared for by their mothers at home.
The more time in child care of any kind or quality, the more aggressive the child.
The result is young people who, a decade and a half after daycare, scream at the parent/State for not protecting them sufficiently. It is no coincidence that “safe spaces” resemble daycare centers.
Granted, I recognize the behavior, but I can't reconcile it with my own experience of motherlessness. Maybe you have to combine daycare with the other silly trends in child development, which my full-time working father and stepmother were, to put in mildly, not into.

I'm much more drawn to the approach of this sensible lady, Brene Brown, who has my number when it comes to the fear of vulnerability.


E Hines said...

My "daycare" was on a farm just outside of our dinky town. I was expected to help slop the hogs, push the broom in the barn,....

Not much of a safe space.

Eric Hines

Grim said...

It took me a while to find time to watch that long talk, but she raises some interesting points.

Ymar Sakar said...

Competing against human cruelty, when they are your childish peers, is something that people will run away from, lacking a strong fortified castle and Will.