Elizabeth Duffy: "How to Like Women."
Megan McArdle: "Why Does Everyone Hate Women?"
It strikes me is that what people hate isn't the women, but the power structures that women often set up.
I understand disliking a specific woman who is vicious. I also understand women like Ms. Duffy, who found the power structures that seem natural to girls horrible to live under as a girl, and who therefore wanted no part of them as an adult woman. Some men, I suppose, are unable to win free of such things, and find themselves driven like cattle from one thing to another. These women and these men have a natural antipathy to a form of control they do not know how to resist, and which is punishing and hateful to them.
Still, I've always liked women, and part of it is that I've always found myself entirely outside of these sorts of power plays. The kinds of power that move me are different kinds, and these sorts of things have passed over me like shadows, without the power to bind.
Nevertheless, I can see how they bind others. The question of how you treat those over whom you exercise power is deeply relevant to whether or not you earn my respect. The women who have -- and there are many -- share a virtue in this regard.