Glowing with Pride

Those of you who aren't fathers may not understand this, but bear with those of us who are. Today my son, in whom I am well pleased, was almost arrested on his college campus. This was because he was carrying a hatchet, which the campus police chose to interpret as a weapon instead of a tool. He stood his ground about it, made them apologize and give him back the axe. He was completely right about the law on this subject, which gives substantial leeway to the police but nevertheless does not forbid carrying a tool that might possibly be used as a weapon.

My wife doesn't get this, because in her mind if you were only a little more careful about obeying the rules -- staying clearly inside of the lines -- there wouldn't be any trouble, and peace and order would be maintained. I love her, but she's wrong. The only reason any of us are free at all is that someone held the line, right at the edge, and made the powers that be back off and respect the limits.

I've never been more proud. Not of anything I've ever done, nor anything at all. I doubt my father was ever this proud of me. I'm writing this down in the hope that someday he'll read it and know how proud he made me. I tried to tell him, but words are passing things.

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  1. Anonymous5:42 PM

    Congratulations to the young man. And to you and your lady for raising him to know the real rules.

    LittleRed1

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  2. It is indeed the case that staying well inside the lines only gives room for them to contract.

    It is absolutely necessary to constantly test the lines in order to preserve them, even some of the tests or some of the testers are irritating as Hell.

    It's also necessary to push them in order to identify and get rectified those lines that are inappropriate or that are no longer appropriate.

    Good on your son.

    Eric Hines

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    1. Good on your son.

      Meant to say, as a separate matter, "Good on your son, also." He wasn't testing anything; the campus police were doing the testing, even if they didn't recognize it initially.

      Eric Hines

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  3. Every prophet dared test the lines with God, the least we can do is test them with mere government.
    To know that your children can navigate this world with confidence and ability is most of what any parent wishes to see.
    A father's pride is an incredibly valuable thing. I bet he knows that, and those words, however insufficient in your eyes, are more than enough. Well done all the way around.

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  4. Anonymous10:49 PM

    He gets it!

    Bravo!

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  5. Someone must hold the line! Congratulations to your young man. He will treasure your compliments for the rest of his life, even if he seems not to notice them at the time!

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  6. Your heart must be near bursting! Good for both of you.

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  7. Indeed, good for both of you, and all of us.

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  8. Yes- your son did well. And also give thanks he was dealing with police who possessed a modicum of of reason, and who were not totally wrapped up in ego- sometimes any contradiction of authority is seen as an excuse to abuse.

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    1. Then they have to deal with me.

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