tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5173950.post2157407245766753389..comments2024-03-29T03:57:26.974-04:00Comments on Grim's Hall: When communication makes you feel further awayGrimhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07543082562999855432noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5173950.post-80230107140050873602012-05-07T14:53:00.422-04:002012-05-07T14:53:00.422-04:00If, at some point in your life, your child does no...If, at some point in your life, your child does not scream "I hate you!" at you, you're probably not doing your job as a parent correctly.RonFhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17346484258194484053noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5173950.post-24671667059888687982012-05-07T14:52:22.826-04:002012-05-07T14:52:22.826-04:00The immediate response may well be negative; he ma...<i>The immediate response may well be negative; he may claim you’re letting him down and making him feel worse, and may openly regret talking to you. Instead of getting defensive, tell him you see a positive way forward and that your vision differs from his. Then stand pat, don’t argue, and stand ready to help him whenever he takes a positive step. It may be awhile before you feel close again, but, if and when you do, it will be the real thing. Until then, you can talk all the time, but every conversation will make you feel further away.</i><br /><br />In other words, stop being his friend and start being his parent.RonFhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17346484258194484053noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5173950.post-71607971953602327182012-04-29T17:28:25.610-04:002012-04-29T17:28:25.610-04:00You're probably right. I'm going to guess...You're probably right. I'm going to guess it's never been the case that most people were given to thinking first.Grimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07543082562999855432noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5173950.post-23420712495061443772012-04-29T16:41:48.292-04:002012-04-29T16:41:48.292-04:00Also: "Before we discovered communication as ...Also: "Before we discovered communication as the solution to family conflict and misunderstanding, we knew better. Back then, people thought before they spoke."<br /><br />I dunno about the rest of that, but the above quote is just hooey.Eric Blairnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5173950.post-57182793597324042392012-04-29T12:16:20.899-04:002012-04-29T12:16:20.899-04:00That does seem like good advice.
There's a po...That does seem like good advice.<br /><br />There's a point among intimates, too, at which everyone knows how everyone feels. At that point 'communication' does no further good because there is no good left for it to do.Grimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07543082562999855432noreply@blogger.com