I told the wife, when we were first married and discussing such things, that if she ever met another man who really sparked a special love in her heart she'd better stay away from him just as she loved him. She understood, and appreciated the sense of commitment implied by the willingness to deal harshly with any man who thought to trouble our union. Apparently they do things differently in New York.
Old Merle tried to hit the middle ground, where 'Friendly Henrys' could exist as long as they knew the right time to scram. But I saw a lot of guys in Iraq have their spirit broken by a woman -- admittedly young, with their men admittedly gone for 15 months at a time -- who betrayed their trust, and often their wedding vows.
Here's Ranger UP on Jodie, with the usual warnings about their videos.